Tales of a wandering lesbian

Big Mama’s Buddy

I got to go hiking today with my mom and her good friend Karla.  We walked the White Cloud trail that winds through the hills around Sun Valley.  The views are really great.  I grew up here, and the hills and mountains make me feel alive and at home all at once.

Baldy and Ketchum

The wildflowers were still out a little bit, the mullen was everywhere, we saw two little chipmunks, and the morning rain made the hills smell like sagebrush.  The best part, however, was spending time with Mom and Karla.


The two women have known each other for probably 20 years and have been good friends for the last 10.  I like spending time with them.  They enjoy each other immensely and ask nothing in return.  Do you know how rare that is?  How lovely?  There’s no pretense, no performing.  Just being.

When I measure my friendship – how good a friend I am to others – this is the measure I use.  Can I just love the other person?  Can I let them be themselves and give myself permission to do the same?  That’s what I see when I spend time with Mom and Karla.  It’s beautiful.

Good friends!

Thank you, ladies!  You are beautiful.  Your friendship is something bright and wonderful in this world.

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1 big mama { 09.29.09 at 9:28 pm }

We’ve actually know each other for almost 27 years!! We love each other. I’m so glad you were able to be with us today.

2 karla gonzalez { 09.30.09 at 1:15 pm }

And I loved this AM – what fun for the three of us – and yes, I do love your mom with all her little idiosyncrasies – but best of all, I can tell her anything and we laugh a lot together!! Laughing is my all time favorite thing to do. Sometmes we should be crying when we share our stories but we usually end up laughing so she is a good friend to have!! And she has this very rare lovely daughter that
I have known for 32 years whom (or who – your mom might correct me but I would forget) I love and care about a great deal and can hardly wait to read about her wonderful upcoming adventures!! A big hug!

3 big mama's buddy { 09.30.09 at 1:21 pm }

why oh why didn’t i put some eyes on this AM!!